Contents

INTRODUCTION [ Read Me ]1
THE SMART MAN PROBLEM [ Read Me ]
WHAT DO WOMEN WANT? [ Read Me ]7
    Loving Thoughts8
    Loving Actions10
    Collect Love Points11
    Who Is Your Partner?14
    That Inner Kid16
    Loving Versus Liking 18
    Unexpected Responses 19
    You May Get Picked On 20
BASIC COMMUNICATION23
    Communication 10124
    Women Interact 25
    A Serious Warning26
    Talk About Feelings Because…27
    Mirroring28
    Body Language Shouts! 29
    Attack and You Lose31
    Fight Fair 33
    What Was Your Purpose in Making That Statement? 34
COMMUNICATION PITFALLS37
    Don’t Say “But” 37
    “Why?” Is Rude 38
    Your Partner Doesn’t “Need” to Do Anything 38
    Talk Bad Not Care 39
    Sarcasm Is for Snobs 40
    Teasing41
    Being Right Is a Mistake 42
    Don’t Talk Nonsense 43
    Rudeness 44
    Who Is Responsible? 45
    The 72-Hour Rule 45
    Don’t Fix Your Partner’s Problems 47
    Ask for Permission48
    Honesty Is a Necessity 49
COMMUNICATION SOLUTIONS 51
    The Miraculous Results Formula 51
    Who Wins? 54
    Say You’re Sorry 56
    Children, Family, Friends, and Coworkers 57
FIX YOURSELF 59
    You’re Dumber Than You Think!59
    Resentments and Expectations 60
    Clean It Yourself or Shut Up62
    Be Pleasant Doing Chores 63
    Sex 64
    A Nice Guy 65
    Divorce 66
HELP YOUR PARTNER 69
    Bad Presents 69
    Needs vs. Wants 71
    Reaffirm Your Partner 72
    A Perfect Vacation 73
    The Gift of Success 75
    What If It Isn’t Broken? 76
    Important Rites of Passage 77
    Commitment 79
LIFE IS GOOD 81
    Good Luck 81
    Perfection Is Relative 82
    Assume the Best 83
    Wife Whisperer85
THE END? HARDLY!87
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS89