The problem is what we don’t do!
Would you rather be promised . . . whatever . . . and end up receiving more than you were promised? Or would you rather be promised a bigger . . . whatever . . . and get less than what you were promised?
Your partner is the same.
It is always better to be pleasantly surprised when a partner exceeds the expectation he or she created than to be disappointed by their failure to do what was promised.
Don’t create expectations you can’t, or aren’t, going to meet. Don’t set yourself up to be a failure and disappoint your partner. You are only going to do as much as you are going to do anyway.
Unmet expectations can ruin anything––and sometimes everything. Always do more than you promise, never less.